Fighting Those Post Break-Up Feelings

At 21 years old I’ve officially experienced my first heart break and let me tell you, it’s shit. The hardest thing I have ever had to do is walk away from someone whilst still loving them, it’s the worst feeling in the world but now I know that it was the right decision for both of us. It just wasn’t supposed to be and that’s for a number of reasons but I don’t regret a single moment I spent with him. I learned so much about who I am whilst in a relationship and now that I’m single and that’s OK and for now I get to be selfish and live my life a quarter mile at a time doing exactly what I want to do. 

However, I knew exactly how it feels to fight those post breakup feelings of anxiety, grief and anger. It’s actually so sad, my friend told me to treat it like a death rather than a break-up and it was probably the best bit of advice I had been given. Whether you’ve just broken up or you’re a few months down the line it can still be challenging but there are things to do to make the process easier. 

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not a break-up expert by no means. In fact I was and often continue to be a total mess, you aren’t alone in that one. I took gradual steps after my break-up to process and grieve my loss and it took a while but eventually I figured myself out. 

Step 1: Change your relationship status, remove the photos, give back their things. Leaving these things around will only make the process harder, believe me I know. Once you do it you feel so much better, like weight has been lifted off your shoulders. Having a clear out also just makes you feel more refreshed, think of it as changing the your summer clothes to your winter clothes. Out with the old and in with the new. 

Step 2: Take it slow. Stop rushing things, you wont wake up the next day and feel wonderful. It does take time, so give yourself time to process the situation. I don’t mean spend all day, every day dwelling on what could have been and feeling sad about it. I mean give yourself a few minutes to think about it, get up, shake it off and distract yourself. It’s okay to think about it and be sad but you need to do other things to do slowly adjust. I read all 7 Harry Potter books (best decision I ever made), got a summer job to distract myself and started eating healthy and exercising.

Step 3: Put yourself first. Was there something you wanted to do before you broke up that you wouldn’t have done whilst you were together? Now is your opportunity to do it. I’ve focused my time to lose weight and, study my masters degree, work and make new friends. I’m eating healthier and less, the weight is slowly coming off me and it’s increasing my self-esteem massively, I feel so much better every single time I see those numbers on the scale fall. I continue to embrace my new life as a masters student, occasionally go off plan through drinking wine or eating a little unhealthy whilst I make new friends and learn how to juggle my life.

Step 4: Go out, be sociable and meet new people. You have to get yourself back out there and especially into the world of dating (that dreaded world). My friends told me that you have to kiss a lot of frogs for you find your prince, so you go kiss those frogs (when you’re good and ready of course). Being sociable will really help to keep your mind off things and along the way you may find yourself with a new partner but most importantly, new friends and founding confidence. 

Step 5: Learn to accept the change, embrace your new founding freedom and remember that you probably weren’t the reason for the break-up and things don’t always pan out the way you planned things. Your dream wedding with the guy of your dreams will happen, just not at this moment. Yeah it’s shit because you planned your baby names, what dog you wanted and the type of house you wanted to live in. Those things will come, just with someone else eventually. You’re still worthy of love and attention, don’t you forget that. 

Remember, your break-up doesn’t define who you are. You can be anybody you want to be, so go out and be her/him. You now have the chance to do more of what makes you happy with the privileged of not worrying about someone else. 

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Before I Die…

I read a book a few months ago called All The Bright Things. In this book the characters were listing the things they wanted to do, achieve or create before they die and it inspired me to write about the things I want to do before I do (a long time away I hope so plenty of time to get through my list!). So, let’s jump straight in shall we. 

Before I die I want to…

  • Swim with dolphins. 
  • Go to Hawaii. 
  • Own a home (or two if I’m lucky enough). 
  • Be my own boss. 
  • Have children and raise them in a two parent home. 
  • Go to Italy and make my own pizza (I know I can do this anywhere but.. Italy right?). 
  • Be given the type of love only a parent can get. 
  • Marry my best friend.
  • Build a tree house. 
  • Visit the Great Barrier Reef. 
  • Visit more of the UK. 
  • Go and visit Jess in Canada. 
  • Work abroad for a year. 
  • Own a high end bag. 
  • Take a trip with just my brothers (probably too wishful). 
  • Witness a miracle.
  • Never have to worry about money. 
  • Go on a safari. 

Across the years I’ll probably accomplish some of these things and continue to add more. This is just the start of my very long journey. How about you guys write your own list of things to do, achieve or create before you die!

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A Open Letter To My Younger Self..

Dear teenage Beth,

You did it. You will reach adulthood and the minor problems in your young, teenage life has not determined who you will become and what you will achieve. At the time, being a teenage is the harder thing in the world. What seems like the biggest problems eventually become smaller and smaller, before you realise they were so meaningless and will play no importance to your future.

Your best friends will change but you will always remember your first, the first best friend to go shopping with and who you turn to in times of need. Yes, you’ll find others who also mean so much to you but that first one, they will never be forgotten. It’s okay to move on, it’s all a part of living.

Your parents are trying their hardest and they don’t always get it right but that’s okay, you’ll learn to forgive and forget because they gave you life and more. They aren’t perfect, they’re strict and often have no idea about anything you have an interest in but they care for you and protect you in so many ways and simply want what’s best for you. Even if they don’t always know what that is.

You’re not fat. You never have been and you will definitely gain weight but  your mental health will change and you’ll realise that you’re healthy. Most of all, you are worthy of love, time and friendships and being a 5’2 curvy woman will not change whether you’re loved or attractive.

That boy you met in the club and made your night out fantastic.. Forget him. He’s not important. The boy you thought was your first love and you could never live without him.. Yeah, forget him too, he wasn’t your first love. You’ll meet someone eventually and they’ll change your whole world and show you exactly what it is to be loved and love. Everyday he will show you that you’re the best thing in the world and without you his life won’t ever be the same, hold on to it because it’s the best thing ever. Argue with him, love him, be funny and always appreciate the little things. You would be lost without him. 

However, your first real heartbreak will come and you will feel awful all the time. From what people have said though, you’ll move on but you’ll never forget him. That’s okay because I’m sure he won’t ever forget you too. 

Your health is the most important thing in the world so take a break. You’re stubborn and hardworking and whenever you put your mind to something you won’t stop until it’s achieved to above satisfaction. Your body is not a temple and it needs time to rest and relax from your very busy antics. You’re not iron man and you will only get worse if you’re not giving yourself time to enjoy the little thing and appreciate laying in bed all day reading a book. 

You done good kiddo. Enjoy your life, it’ll fly by. 

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Summer Nail Colours

Summer is here and although I don’t always pain my nails, when I do I like to pick seasonal shades. In the spring I tend to wear a lot of pastel colours and I do again for the summer but usually I like to include a lot of pinks and nudes throughout the summer more than most colours. This summer I’ve definitely mixed it up a bit and I’ve been reaching for shades that I never usually do. 

Buying nail varnish is normally the last thing I ever do. I rarely by nail varnishes, nails just aren’t my thing. I do like to update them once/maybe twice a year though because nail varnishes do expire just like all beauty products. I have several in my collection that I reach for throughout the summer and these are what I’ve been enjoying this year! 

Barry M Speedy Quick Dry shade in number 27 (the name has worn away, sorry!). It’s a pastel purple shad but looks beautiful and summer, especially gorgeous with a tan. 

Barry M Nail Paint in 272 Shocking Pink. It’s a very bright barbie pink and I’ve just enjoyed feeling a bit more brighter when the sun’s out. 

Barry M Nail Paint in 262 Bight Red. This is the brightest red nail varnish I’ve ever bought and worn and I bloody love it. I especially love wearing it when an all black dress and heels (not sure why, just feels glamorous). 

NAILSINC Gel Effect in Porchester Square. This is a very neutral nude shade and that’s basically all it is. I like the finish it gives and I find it’s long lasting and not that easy to chip. 

Missguided nail varnish in Misstique. A very dark teal shade but at the same time, in different angles does look bright. It’s got a lovely long-wearing finish and isn’t matte which is what I like most. 

What have been your favourites? 

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Book Review: When We Collided

I recently come across a new author to me, named Emery Lord. I purchase two of three books that she has published, When We Collided was the first I read. 
I was in the mood to read lovey-dovey, romantic novels and after reading the first chapter of both books and the back of the book, I knew that this would be a good read. Let’s get to the point, it didn’t fail me & I really enjoyed this book. 
Jonah and his family had experienced the dreadful loss of his father and never thought he would feel normal again. Vivi had moved to his home town for the summer with her artist mother in hopes to start experiencing the world in a way she’s always wanted too, happy. Never did they both know that, during the summer they would experience their first love that consumed them. 

It’s been months that I have come across a book that I’ve become obsessed with. This one really did it for me, I read this during the summer when I had been missing Matt so much and it just helped me to relive the happy memories and all of the loving feelings I have for him.

I especially liked that the stigma of mental health and death hadn’t been ignored and instead, totally emphasised in the most powerful and thoughtful way. Emery hadn’t ignored the fact that people have difficulties regardless of what they are and she noticed that all problems and life changing events should be recognised. 

The story was beautiful and full of love between two teenagers that eventually realised how to love themselves again. 

With love, Beth x 

The Boyfriend Tag

I have seen so many bloggers and youtubers doing ‘The Boyfriend/Girlfriend Tag’ for so many years and I finally have the chance to do it with Matt. Fortunately for me he didn’t hesitate to do this at all and from the answer he gave I’ll say that he does know me quite well. 

  1. She’s sitting in front of the tv what is on the screen? The Vampire Diaries
  2.  You’re out to eat, what kind of dressing does she get on her salad? Southwest Sauce
  3. What’s one food she doesn’t like? Strawberries (she stupid, strawberries are awesome!)
  4. You go out to eat and have a drink what does she order? Food that she thinks she’ll like and then eat mine.
  5. What size shoe does she wear? 6 
  6. If she was collecting anything what would it be? Notes on stupid stuff I say
  7. What is her favourite type of sandwich? Steak and cheese. 
  8. What would this person eat everyday if she could? Cake. 
  9. What is hr favourite cereal? Weetabix. 
  10. What her favourite music? Depends on mood but can range from Ed Sheeran to Paramore, sometimes country 
  11. Whats her favourite sports team? Ospreys, because they’re my team and she’ll always support my team 
  12. Whats her eye colour? Blue, totally knew that.. (He actually said brown and then we bickered over this.) 
  13. Who’s her best friend? Me
  14. What is something you do that she wishes you wouldn’t? Smoking
  15. Where was she born? Royal Gwent
  16. You bake her a cake for her birthday what kind of cake is it? Red velvet obvs. 
  17. Does/did she play any sports? Sports.. really? “Where is the cake?” 
  18. What could she spend hours doing? Blogging 
  19. What is one talent she has? Makeup.. Something to do with makeup.
I tag all of you to do this with your partner! 
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Vouge 73 Questions

On their Youtube channel Vogue has celebrity guests such as James Corden, Emma Stone and Neil Patrick Harris. Vouge are invited into their homes and asked 73 ‘random’ questions and I’ve been loving them. Since I’ve been loving them so much I thought I would answer the question lists as a way for you guys to learn more about me. So, here we have it, 73 questions all about me! Enjoy. 

  1. What’s your favourite movie? Grease. 
  2. Favourite movie in the past five years? Bridget Jones’s Baby. 
  3. Favourite Hitchcock film? I don’t have one. 
  4. A book you plan on reading? The Things We Thought We Knew by Mahsuda Snaith.
  5. A book that you read in school that positively shaped you? Holes.
  6. Favourite TV show that is currently on? The Vampire Diaries.
  7. On a scale of one to ten how excited are you about life right now? ugh, like an 8. 
  8. iPhone or Android? iPhone.
  9. Twitter or Instagram? Twitter. 
  10. Who should EVERYONE be following right now? Dylan Sprouse. 
  11. What’s your favourite food? Pizza. 
  12. What’s your least favourite food? Cooked mushrooms. 
  13. What do you love on your pizza? Veggies! 
  14. Favourite drink? Sparkling apple and raspberry water. 
  15. Favourite dessert? Tripple chocolate fudge cake. 
  16. Dark chocolate or milk chocolate? Neither. 
  17. Coffee or tea? Is green tea an option? 
  18. What’s the hardest part of being a mum? I’m not a mum.. I wouldn’t know. 
  19. What’s your favourite band? All Time Low. 
  20. Favourite solo artist? Lukas Graham.
  21. Favourite song? James Arthur – Sober. 
  22. If you could sing a duet with anybody, who would it be? Celine Dion. 
  23. If yu could master one instrument, what would it be? Violin. 
  24. If you had a tattoo, where would it be? Thigh. 
  25. To be or not to be? That is the question. 
  26. Dogs or cats? Dogs. 
  27. Bird-watching or whale-watching? Whale-watching. 
  28. Best gift you’ve ever received? Alice in Wonderland and Alice Through the Looking Glass books from 1961 and 1962. 
  29. Best gift you’ve ever given? I have no idea. 
  30. Last give you gave a friend? Sweets. 
  31. What’s your favourite board game? Trivial pursuit. 
  32. What’s your favourite country to visit? I’ve not travelled enough to know. 
  33. What’s the last country you visted? Spain. 
  34. What country do you wish to visit? Italy. 
  35. What’s your favourite colour? Orange. 
  36. Least favourite colour? Fushia. 
  37. Diamonds or peals? Diamonds. 
  38. Heels or flats? Flats. 
  39. Pilates or yoga? Pilates
  40. Jogging or swimming? Swimming. 
  41. Best way to de-stress? A bath and book. 
  42. If you had one superpower, what would it be? I would be invisable. 
  43. What’s the weirdest word in the English language? aa. 
  44. What’s your favourite flower? Lillys. 
  45. When was the last time you cried? Yesterday. 
  46. Do you like your handwriting? Yes. 
  47. Do you bake? Not often enough. 
  48. What is your least favourite thing about yourself? My weight. 
  49. What is your favourite thing about yourself? My constant need to help others. 
  50. What do you miss most? My niece and nephew. 
  51. What are you listening to right now? Grease Live. 
  52. Favourite smell? Cranberry. 
  53. Who was the last person you talked to on the phone? Matthew.
  54. Who was the last person you sent a text to? Matthew. 
  55.  A sport you wish you could play? Ice Hockey. 
  56. Hair colour? Brunette. 
  57. Eye colour? Blue. 
  58. Scary film or happy ending? Happy ending. 
  59. Favourite season? Fall/Autumn. 
  60. Three people alive or dead that you would like to have dinner with? Elvis Presley, Princess Diana, Aretha Franklin. 
  61. Hugs or kisses? Hugs. 
  62. Rolling Stones or the Beatles? The Beatles. 
  63. Where were you born? Newport, South Wales. 
  64. What is the farthest you’ve been from home? United States. 
  65. Sweet or savory? Savory. 
  66. Lipstick or lip gloss? Lipstick. 
  67. What book have you read again and again? P.s I Love You. 
  68. Favourite bedtime story? Matilda. 
  69. What would be the title of your autobiography? ‘Bethan Davies and her customised chair in A&E.’
  70. Favourite sound? A child laughing. 
  71. Favourite animal? Tortoise. 
  72. Who is your girl crush? Emma Watson. 
  73. Last photograph you took? Of my sweet potato fries. 

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