What Am I Thankful For?

Blogmas day 24! It’s Christmas Eve and I just can’t believe how we have gotten here so quickly. This time of year is beautiful, it really does allow you to think of all the things you’re grateful for and how appreciative you are of life.

This year, I’m so thankful for change. Some people are afraid of change and I know I was as well, but this year, I embraced it. I graduated from my first degree, started my second in a new town, new university and begun creating a new life for myself. I’ve met some incredible people and I’ve had the best first semester ever. I threw myself in the deep end and started to experience the uni life I never really had in Aberystwyth.

With that in mind, I’m grateful for my grandmother. This year she’s had all sorts thrown at her and she has fought her way through it all. Taken it all in her stride and not let it get her down. Each day I realise that she’s the reason I’m working so hard to better myself. She’s a real inspiration and someone I’m so incredibly grateful to have in my life.

My niece and nephew are growing up so quickly, Gracie recently turned 7 and Ethan is due to turn 2 next month. It’s so amazing to have the honour of watching these little ones grow and develop into the most wonderful children ever. They’re experiencing childhood to the full and have the most amazing people in their lives to help them achieve whatever they want. They’re beautiful and I love them so much!

However this year, I’m most thankful for my mum. We haven’t always had the best bond, we haven’t always been close. To be honest, we’ve fought and battled with each other for years. Until this year, I experienced my first heartbreak and my mum was my absolute rock through it all. I was devastated and she helped me through everything. Something I never thought I would ever see her do. I do think she’s finally realised that I’m an adult now and she hadn’t been able to let me go for so long. But now she has, we’re closer than ever. I couldn’t imagine my mum not being in my life even when she’s being the biggest pain in the ass. This year I am so grateful to have had her help me and guide me through everything I’ve needed her for.

Twitter: @bethdaviesblog

Instagram: @_bbbbethan

With love, Beth x

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7 Things To Do In The New Year

Another new year has passed and we’re almost in 2018! There are people everywhere doing things as a fresh start for the new year, whether it’s adding or removing things to your life or simply having a clear out. We all do a little something to really make a difference to the new year and month.

For me, I always like to have a clear out. I think there’s nothing better than starting the new year with a freshly cleaned home and a clear mind. I also like to do other things just to really make the extra difference to my life and I think it’s time to share them with you!

  1. Having a clear out is important so whether it’s your clothing, your draws or whatever it could possibly be. Go ahead and empty your unnecessary items into the bin for another year.
  2. Make decorative change to your home. Fancy a new colour in your living room? Flooring? Make a list of things you want to do to make your house feel that extra more homey and you’ll thank yourself in December when you achieve these.
  3. Send happy new year cards! It’s always lovely to show people how much you love them and how grateful you are for them. I think writing cards is so thoughtful and what better than letting someone know you’re so happy that you have them in your life.
  4. Give to the homeless or a charity, maybe both? Who knows. December is a month for giving and it doesn’t stop there! Whether you have left over food or clearing away any old toys, you can always donate them.
  5. Organise your monthly bills. Paper chase have the most incredible annual budget diaries and I think it’s a great way to get your finances in order and make 2018 another successful year.
  6. Plan a trip! There is nothing better than knowing you have something to look forward too. I definitely plan on organising a holiday this year and I can’t wait to give myself a little motivation and excitement for the upcoming months.
  7. Setting goals is important and for me, I like to do them monthly rather than yearly as they’re often more achievable. I really think that it’s important to do more of what makes you happy and do things to improve your sense of self.

Let me know some of the things that you like to do in January to make your new year more successful!

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With love, Beth x

10 Benefits of Exercising 

I recently started to take exercising more seriously and don’t get me wrong, I’m no expert at all. Although that doesn’t mean I haven’t become aware of the perks of exercising whilst doing it, my body has been changing but not only that, my mental health. Whether it’s my shape, my skin or my mind, I’m finding that there are so many benefits from exercising and it’s encouraged me to do it more. 

It has so many benefits, most of which I never knew or understood for a long time. In fact, the thought of exercise used to give me major lazy-bones syndrome. I hated everything to do with exercise for so long and when I eventually started taking my weight loss seriously I just knew that I wanted to increase my chances of loss and changing my body shape by adding exercise to my plan. 

Exercise is different for everybody and people change in accordance to their mind and body. These are the things I’ve noticed that have happened since I’ve started taking exercise more seriously but I would love for you to share with me your feelings on exercise! 

I used to exercise religiously, in fact it probably wasn’t at all healthy. However,after minimising the amount I exercise and finding a balance between what makes me happy, I have noticed the benefits that come from exercising. So, what benefits have I noticed from exercising? Continue reading to find out. 

1. I do struggle with acne and I always have but I’ve found since exercising my skin has become so much more clear. Perhaps this is the amount of water I’m now drinking, the healthy balanced diet and exercise combined. Whatever it is, it’s working and I’m very happy! 

2. Exercise boosts your endophines, meaning that you’ll become less stressed, anxious, angry and confused. 

3. You’ll feel more confident seeing changes to your body. You’ll try on your old clothes and start feeling more yourself again enjoy the skin you’re in. 

4. Eating healthy and exercising can decrease your chances of being unwell and having to fight those nasty winter colds. As well as improving your blood pressure.

5.  Your balance will improve along with your flexibility! I really encourage yoga for balance and flexibility, it’s a great workout and I’ve found my body has become more flexible in just the few months that I’ve been practicing. 

6. Improves your sleeping pattern. I sleep so much better than ever! Getting between 8-10 hours a night. 

7. You will have picked up a new hobby so instead of spending your time doing nothing whilst sat at home, head out and exercise. It passes the time away and makes you feel good. 

8. It’s mentally stimulating which helps productivity throughout the day. For me, if I’ve got an essay to write or reading to do I’ll always start my day off with a workout to aid my energy levels. 

9. Your lung capacity will improve and you’ll find yourself with better stamina. At the beginning I noticed this change and you will too, eventually you’ll be doing certain exercises like jogging better with your ability to control your breathing through the session. 

10. Exercise gives you a better outlook on life, it helps with your mental health drastically and can seriously reduce depression and anxiety. Along with that you can decrease your chances of having diabetes, heart problems as well as a strokes by up to 50%. 

Before my masters degree I wasn’t ever keen on exercising, I didn’t know what I was doing and I couldn’t control my breathing correctly. With time you’ll adjust and you’ll learn how to successfully control your breathing, for me, yoga did this. I practiced yoga before starting the gym and it really helped me to learn how to control my breathing when in poses and sessions that are hard.  Don’t get me wrong, I do struggle to find the time for it as I’ve gotten busier these past few weeks, but that doesn’t mean I still don’t like to exercise. In fact, I enjoy it more!

Twitter: @bethdaviesblog

Instagram: @_bbbbethan 

With love, Beth x 

Equality is the New Feminism

Blogmas day 18! Let’s discuss why I should be allowed to sleep with 50 men and nobody give a shit? 

There is this massive stigma in society on the rights and wrongs on what women do and I for one, have had enough of it. So many people, both women and men believe that each gender should act according to the norm and to other people’s views and I call total bullshit on it. It’s 2017 for crying out loud and if I want to wear men’s clothes, sleep around or be a brick layer I bloody well will. 

Many people, especially the older generation (some may argue) believe that women are to raise children, cook, clean and be seen but not heard and I personally find it highly offensive. I’m offended that my education isn’t deemed important or significant in every day life and that my purpose on this earth is the give birth and be nothing more than a house wife. Don’t get me wrong, if that is what you want with your life then by all means. My point is though, that we should all have a choice on what happens in our lives and how we decide to live it is nobody else’s choice and quite frankly, their opinion is totally invalid unless asked for it. 

I’m sure in the past people believed that life would be different in the future. Well, the future is happening, the 21st century is here and yet women and men are still seen as different and honestly, we aren’t. Some of the smartest people I know are women and some are men. I know women that are strong, empowering and intelligent who can take on whatever life throws at them. However, the minute they use their intelligence, a man’s ego is hurt because said woman can calculate mathematics better than him. 

What really, really grinds my bones is that it is absolutely accepted for a man to sleep with as many people as he wants. However, the minute a woman has a number count over 5, they’re deemed damaged and slutty. How is this fair? Equality, I don’t think so. Sex is 100% a natural experience that is totally required for 90% or more of people. I know from personal experiences that I have felt so guilty and unworthy after having a one night stand because I feel like Society will judge me. However the more I’ve grown up and have experienced casual sex, I’ve realised that there is absolutely nothing wrong with it and in fact, it’s fine to sleep with people with no attachments if you truly want too. So why can’t I decide who I want to sleep with and when, without being identified as a whore? 

So what if I want to work 60 hours a week, wear a face full of makeup and a low cut t-shirt. I am the owner of my own body and if a man can’t control where he looks or feels intimated by a hard working woman, then there is something wrong with him rather than me or any other woman. 

My point is, I’m fed up of living in a world where it isn’t OK for a man to have feminine characteristics or a women to want to work in a male dominated career. It’s absolutely fine to be whoever you want to be and nobody should have an opinion on whether or not it is acceptable. 

Twitter: @bethdaviesblog 

Instagram: @_bbbbethan 

With love, Beth x 

Dating Is Scary

This post is a little different for blogmas but I just wanted to share my advice on dating! I recently jumped back into the dating world (I say recently, a few weeks ago..) but I’ve really enjoyed it.

This year I had a break up and I honestly thought it was the end of the world, spoiler.. lol no it wasn’t.  However, the thought of dating again terrified me for a few months. I was certain that all guys are the same and that they would all break my heart and I quickly learnt that they are. In fact, there are some really genuine guys out there.

What I’ve realised though is that I had no intention of rushing into dating again. So when I started thinking of whether I was actually ready, I waited it out another few weeks just to be really sure. The real reason for this though was to really make sure that I completely experienced being totally alone so I knew completely that I wasn’t just going back into dating because I’m lonely or needing to rely on someone else to feel stronger.

What helped me realise that I was ready to date in the first place was a rebound. It sounds ridiculous and slutty but it helps. I don’t mean just have sex with a random guy, I mean by all means go ahead but for me, I had sex with a friend and it really helped to improve my self esteem. It might sound so crazy that my self esteem got boosted from having sex but it really did. It made me feel good, his affection made me feel appreciated and beautiful again.

So, when did I decide that I was ready to jump back on the bandwagon and date again? At around 3 months post break up, I truly knew that I was completely ready. I first experienced the feelings at around 2 months post break up. I knew full well that I wasn’t completely over the break up and I was still feeling fragile so I didn’t want to go into the dating life still feeling vulnerable. I also especially didn’t want to date someone and not end up feeling the same as the guy may. It wouldn’t be nice for him nor I and it would just result in a series of bad dating. I had offers from guys and I had said no because of these reasons, although one of those guys did his fair share of grafting with me and asked me a second time, I did eventually say yes.

To be totally honest, I don’t think anybody is ever really ready to start dating after having a serious relationship. I think there is a point where you just have to throw yourself back at it because if you don’t, before you know it you’ll be single a year and a half later not knowing how to flirt and socialise with guys. Still thinking that you’ll be alone forever and considering which type of cat or dog to get.

As interesting as that sounds, do you really want to be that person? I know I don’t. I want to experience the thrill and fun of a new relationship, those butterflies you get when he calls you beautiful or when you see him for the first time after a few days. Those firsts, the first kiss, first holiday, first time you tell them you love them.

So honestly, if you’re in the same position, my biggest and best advice is to just go for it. Talk to that guy in the club, download tinder, tell them you like them. The worst thing that can happen is that you get let down, he says no, the relationship didn’t work. You’ve got to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince but I can assure you, you’ll find them. You won’t be alone forever and you are worthy of love.

Twitter: @bethdaviesblog

Instagram: @_bbbbethan

With love, Beth x

Bio Oil Is A Life Changer 

Over the past few months I’ve been using Bio Oil for the first time. I’ve heard about this product and so many of my friends swore by it but I always thought it was pricey but I had severe 2nd (maybe 3rd degree burns) on my arm during august and once the sting had gone and it had started to heal I was using Bio Oil – as I was recommended it, to minimise scaring. 

Originally, when I had first burned my arm it was looking like the images below. 


It was incredibly painful, it blistered and was severally swollen causing the lack of movement in 2 fingers. It was by far the worst pain I’ve ever experience in my life. After a few times of using this my skin begun to peel quite badly but it was just the Oil removing any dry and dead skin from my affected areas. Honestly, Bio Oil has changed my life and I can imagine I’ll be purchasing so many bottles of this wonderful invention. 

My arm now looks like this.


After a few days of using Bio Oil and seeing the change it made to my arm I thought I’d give it a go in other ways. It says that the product can be used for scaring, stretch marks, uneven skin tones and more. I do struggle with stretch marks and I always have done. Since I’ve gained and lost weight recently I thought I’d see if it helped, I apply the Bio Oil twice daily to my stretch marks and a small amount to my skin to help reduce acne scaring and produce a more even type of skin tone. 

It’s blown me away. My skin feels softer, the stretch marks are slowly going, my skin tone is evening out. It’s become a normal part of my day to apply this product and I can’t imagine ever imagine not having this in my life now. 

Admittedly, this product isn’t a quick solution for your issues. I’ve been using Bio Oil for several months now and didn’t see change in my stretch marks for several weeks. Although I did see change within my burn very quickly but mostly because it was helping my skin to shred itself. 

Twitter: @bethdaviesblog

Instagram: @_bbbbethan 

With love, Beth x

Battling Your Insecurities in a New Relationship

Insecurities are something everyone has, they’re so natural to experience and often leave people with a lot of anxiety and stressful thoughts. I know this as I experience them so often, however, I recently experience them more now I’ve started dating someone new.

For some this is the exciting part, they love to meet someone new and really find out who they are. For me, I’d rather just skip to the point where I’m completely settled, comfortable and know them and until that happens, my insecurities will be on fire. From the moment I knew I had feelings for him I had instant insecurities. Does he like me back? Why would he like me? I know he can do better. Apparently these were my favourite thoughts right up until our first date. Before that though, I had already turned down the offer of a date because I was so nervous. After constant thought about this, I definitely regretted it and was over the moon that he asked again (he must have the patience of a god).

With that in mind, I realised quickly that if I let my insecurities more important than how I really felt for him then the relationship wouldn’t happen. I recognised that I needed to do something and fight my insecurities, so these are my thoughts on fighting your insecurities at the beginning of a new relationship.

Say yes to the dateOnce I realised I had said yes to going out on a date I worried for days about whether I could hold a conversation, what if we went on the date and we had absolutely nothing in common and nothing to talk about. Then we would have to sit through our food totally ignoring the fact that it was the worst first date ever (this wasn’t my only concern obviously). Luckily this didn’t happen and we had such a lovely first date and I’ve not regretted it since.

Stop concentrating on previous relationships It’s so easy to compare your previous partners to your new one. It’s not nice to do so but it’s your mind’s way of making sure you don’t experience anything that you have previously. For me I was so afraid of having to change and be someone different. I was afraid of being with him and he wouldn’t accept my anxiety and mental health problems and I was scared it would just chase him away. So I just told him straight out that I do struggle with panic attacks and mental health and instead of thinking the worst of me, he was totally supportive. My point is, you have to just see what they’re like before knocking them.

Appearance isn’t everything Try not to spend all your time concentrating on your makeup, hair and outfit. Just do what feels natural and comfortable to you. I guarantee they aren’t that bothered whether you’re wearing a dress or jeans, heels or flats. I know I still do it but I like to make so much effort when I’m going to see him so he doesn’t think I’m a total troll. when I realised that I was still doing this I started toning it down a bit by wearing less or no makeup at all. Hanging out in my comfiest leggings and oversized t-shirts whilst having lazy sofa days. By doing this I learned that he actually doesn’t mind what I look like and it’s helped me to feel so much more relaxed.

Take it slow We all have this feeling of rushing, wanting to be the best, wanting to just get to a point. Embrace the new relationship, the first kiss, first trip, the first anything. Enjoy spending time together and learning more about each other. It’s okay to just enjoy each other’s company. With this relationship I’ve promised that I’m going to take it as slow as possible, I see no reason to rush what we have and I’m enjoying just seeing where things go. We all worry about the future but it’s okay to just enjoy being with each other in the present time.

Enjoy the firsts The thought of the firsts really gives me anxiety and it still does. The first of anything you do together it so scary regardless of what it is. So many of us try to prevent doing the firsts through fear but I’ve learned that it’s okay to be excited about them. The first kiss is supposed to be magical and I was so apprehensive about it but it was even worse for me. I had to experience it twice! Our first kiss, I was drunk, like totally out of my face drunk. I can barely even remember it but I do remember how happy it had made me. I guess I’m lucky enough to have gotten to experience it for a second time whilst sober. Right at that moment I realised that I just wanted to enjoy all of our first moments together and now I look forward to them.

Talk to them If you really do have a specific insecurity that is just eating you up inside, just talk to them. You have to start communicating and opening up at some point so why not start with something that really bothers you. Talking helps any couple from and develop the comfortable feelings and gain trust. You have to start at some point and I think talking about your insecurities is something that you’ll bond over because it’s probably likely that they too are feeling the same!

Distance is ok Over these past few months I’ve learned that I quite enjoy being around such a variety of people as well as still have alone time. You don’t have to speak all the time, you don’t have to see each other every day, you don’t have to just be with them on nights out. Distance means you won’t become too reliant on that person and you can still live your life the way you want. Except for a few nights a week or whenever you want, you get to really enjoy the time with them and look forward to it. I know that it’s easy to get comfortable in relationships and forget that you have other friends and other hobbies that you enjoy. Fortunately for us, we have he same friends and we do go on nights out together. But I love nothing more than dancing like idiots with my friends as well as him, I couldn’t imagine being one of those girlfriends who only wants to be with their boyfriend. I like him but I need my own time. It’s so easy to let your insecurities overwhelm you, it’s also easy to totally ignore them and eventually they build up.

These tips might not work for everyone but I know they they work for me. If I’m feeling happy in myself then I know I’ll feel happier with him. Twitter: @bethdaviesblog Instagram: @_bbbbethan With love, Beth x