Christmas at the Davies Residence 

Christmas is my favourite time of year but I especially enjoy the 3 main days of Christmas with my family. It’s definitely the 1 time a year that we truly get on and put our differences behind us. My mum really tries her hardest every single year to make Christmas the most perfect time of year and without fail she always does.

Her every effort during November and December is to make sure that her family, our family, receive the best Christmas ever. She never fails us. With that in mind, my mum begins to prepare for Christmas in September, which might seem crazy but her first wages in September contributes towards gifts, decorations and food to help us have the most incredible Christmas ever.

For those 3 days, we have the most incredible time. Don’t get me wrong, as a I child we did experience it differently but as an adult, I’m so grateful and appreciate everything at Christmas time and it does help me to realise everything that I am grateful for throughout the year.

Christmas Eve in our house is generally pretty chilled, from the early morning mum  will be preparing and start cooking the meat for our rather large Christmas dinner. Generally, each year we have turkey, beef and chicken to see us through Christmas Day and Boxing Day (you’ll learn why). This might seem a lot but we have a large family and really, can you over eat at Christmas?

Once I’m finally awake I’ll help mum prepare vegetables, sort out the chocolates, crisps etc. For as long as I can remember, mum has always put out chocolates, crisps, nuts and Bombay mix as snacks around the living room and kitchen area. We don’t get to eat these until Christmas Eve afternoon as technically, this is when we start celebrating our Christmas. We also make sure the house is fully clean by the afternoon and perfect ready for when we finally settle down.

By the afternoon when we have finished preparing, we all try and settle down in our Christmas Eve pjs, after having showers and baths, to a Christmas film. My mum visits our neighbour to wish him and his family a merry Christmas so my brother and I like to hang out together, eating snacks and starting celebrating our Christmas.

Mum always works either Christmas Eve morning or Boxing Day morning (sometimes the afternoon) as she works in a residential home. Therefore, we don’t open any gifts until mum comes in from work. So for the morning my brother, sister in law, niece and nephew will go and visit Jade’s family before finally coming to our family home around 11am with some of the kids toys for us to play with them. They’re always so excited so we like to do everything we can to help them have the best Christmas too. We have either Christmas music playing or a Christmas film at all times during December and we try and make sure we don’t eat too much food so we can indulge during the afternoon.

We also like to go and visit my nan whilst mums in work to make sure she’s OK, give her our gifts and spend some time with our relatives! It’s one of my favourite parts of Christmas Day as I’m so grateful that the family all come together. A few minutes before mum comes home I’ll put the vegetables on the hob and start cooking and once mum comes in she’ll take over, the woman is an absolute god.

Then we finally get to open our gifts together and we always let Gracie and Ethan dig in as soon as she gets home as they do get inpatient. Each year we all have our own little corners of the living room and every year, Gracie (my 7 year old niece)  and I share a corner because we just love to open our gifts together and we love to see what each other received. Once everybody has opened our gifts we generally just chill, watch a film and look at all the wonderful things we received before having the most incredible dinner.

We don’t own a table so I always eat my food sat on the floor with the kids but I wouldn’t have it any other way. We all make such a mess of ourselves because well, they’re children and at Christmas, there are no rules. So whether they manage to throw mashed potato everywhere or pinch each other’s food. We don’t mind, as long as they’re happy. Once our food has settled, we don’t stop there.. dessert is everybody’s favourite in our house. Mum always has a massive selection from chocolate cake, cheesecake, profiteroles or fruit bowls. Whatever we want, we get and it’s incredible. After a few hours of lounging around, playing with the kids and enjoying each other’s company (more than likely a little bicker here and there from my brothers and I, we start to play games for the rest of the evening before finally settling down for bed. The kids, Jade and Kyle do go home around 7/8pm to settle the kids down because it will have been a long day for them.

However, Boxing Day in our house is our absolute favourite! At some point during the day we manage to see every single member of our huge family, all our relatives stop by ready for mums infamous homemade chips, cold meat and salad. We love it, it’s a total win in our house and every year the house is filled with love, happiness and total manic. It’s incredible. The kids have the best day spending time with each other (there are many, many children. We have music playing, games going, laughter spreading throughout the house and so much love like you can’t imagine.

Honestly, I couldn’t ever imagine not spending Christmas with this crazy bunch. Most importantly, I’m so incredibly thankful for my mum who every year, manages to make Christmas in the Davies residence an absolute dream.

With love, Beth x

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Bio Oil Is A Life Changer 

Over the past few months I’ve been using Bio Oil for the first time. I’ve heard about this product and so many of my friends swore by it but I always thought it was pricey but I had severe 2nd (maybe 3rd degree burns) on my arm during august and once the sting had gone and it had started to heal I was using Bio Oil – as I was recommended it, to minimise scaring. 

Originally, when I had first burned my arm it was looking like the images below. 


It was incredibly painful, it blistered and was severally swollen causing the lack of movement in 2 fingers. It was by far the worst pain I’ve ever experience in my life. After a few times of using this my skin begun to peel quite badly but it was just the Oil removing any dry and dead skin from my affected areas. Honestly, Bio Oil has changed my life and I can imagine I’ll be purchasing so many bottles of this wonderful invention. 

My arm now looks like this.


After a few days of using Bio Oil and seeing the change it made to my arm I thought I’d give it a go in other ways. It says that the product can be used for scaring, stretch marks, uneven skin tones and more. I do struggle with stretch marks and I always have done. Since I’ve gained and lost weight recently I thought I’d see if it helped, I apply the Bio Oil twice daily to my stretch marks and a small amount to my skin to help reduce acne scaring and produce a more even type of skin tone. 

It’s blown me away. My skin feels softer, the stretch marks are slowly going, my skin tone is evening out. It’s become a normal part of my day to apply this product and I can’t imagine ever imagine not having this in my life now. 

Admittedly, this product isn’t a quick solution for your issues. I’ve been using Bio Oil for several months now and didn’t see change in my stretch marks for several weeks. Although I did see change within my burn very quickly but mostly because it was helping my skin to shred itself. 

Twitter: @bethdaviesblog

Instagram: @_bbbbethan 

With love, Beth x

Battling Your Insecurities in a New Relationship

Insecurities are something everyone has, they’re so natural to experience and often leave people with a lot of anxiety and stressful thoughts. I know this as I experience them so often, however, I recently experience them more now I’ve started dating someone new.

For some this is the exciting part, they love to meet someone new and really find out who they are. For me, I’d rather just skip to the point where I’m completely settled, comfortable and know them and until that happens, my insecurities will be on fire. From the moment I knew I had feelings for him I had instant insecurities. Does he like me back? Why would he like me? I know he can do better. Apparently these were my favourite thoughts right up until our first date. Before that though, I had already turned down the offer of a date because I was so nervous. After constant thought about this, I definitely regretted it and was over the moon that he asked again (he must have the patience of a god).

With that in mind, I realised quickly that if I let my insecurities more important than how I really felt for him then the relationship wouldn’t happen. I recognised that I needed to do something and fight my insecurities, so these are my thoughts on fighting your insecurities at the beginning of a new relationship.

Say yes to the dateOnce I realised I had said yes to going out on a date I worried for days about whether I could hold a conversation, what if we went on the date and we had absolutely nothing in common and nothing to talk about. Then we would have to sit through our food totally ignoring the fact that it was the worst first date ever (this wasn’t my only concern obviously). Luckily this didn’t happen and we had such a lovely first date and I’ve not regretted it since.

Stop concentrating on previous relationships It’s so easy to compare your previous partners to your new one. It’s not nice to do so but it’s your mind’s way of making sure you don’t experience anything that you have previously. For me I was so afraid of having to change and be someone different. I was afraid of being with him and he wouldn’t accept my anxiety and mental health problems and I was scared it would just chase him away. So I just told him straight out that I do struggle with panic attacks and mental health and instead of thinking the worst of me, he was totally supportive. My point is, you have to just see what they’re like before knocking them.

Appearance isn’t everything Try not to spend all your time concentrating on your makeup, hair and outfit. Just do what feels natural and comfortable to you. I guarantee they aren’t that bothered whether you’re wearing a dress or jeans, heels or flats. I know I still do it but I like to make so much effort when I’m going to see him so he doesn’t think I’m a total troll. when I realised that I was still doing this I started toning it down a bit by wearing less or no makeup at all. Hanging out in my comfiest leggings and oversized t-shirts whilst having lazy sofa days. By doing this I learned that he actually doesn’t mind what I look like and it’s helped me to feel so much more relaxed.

Take it slow We all have this feeling of rushing, wanting to be the best, wanting to just get to a point. Embrace the new relationship, the first kiss, first trip, the first anything. Enjoy spending time together and learning more about each other. It’s okay to just enjoy each other’s company. With this relationship I’ve promised that I’m going to take it as slow as possible, I see no reason to rush what we have and I’m enjoying just seeing where things go. We all worry about the future but it’s okay to just enjoy being with each other in the present time.

Enjoy the firsts The thought of the firsts really gives me anxiety and it still does. The first of anything you do together it so scary regardless of what it is. So many of us try to prevent doing the firsts through fear but I’ve learned that it’s okay to be excited about them. The first kiss is supposed to be magical and I was so apprehensive about it but it was even worse for me. I had to experience it twice! Our first kiss, I was drunk, like totally out of my face drunk. I can barely even remember it but I do remember how happy it had made me. I guess I’m lucky enough to have gotten to experience it for a second time whilst sober. Right at that moment I realised that I just wanted to enjoy all of our first moments together and now I look forward to them.

Talk to them If you really do have a specific insecurity that is just eating you up inside, just talk to them. You have to start communicating and opening up at some point so why not start with something that really bothers you. Talking helps any couple from and develop the comfortable feelings and gain trust. You have to start at some point and I think talking about your insecurities is something that you’ll bond over because it’s probably likely that they too are feeling the same!

Distance is ok Over these past few months I’ve learned that I quite enjoy being around such a variety of people as well as still have alone time. You don’t have to speak all the time, you don’t have to see each other every day, you don’t have to just be with them on nights out. Distance means you won’t become too reliant on that person and you can still live your life the way you want. Except for a few nights a week or whenever you want, you get to really enjoy the time with them and look forward to it. I know that it’s easy to get comfortable in relationships and forget that you have other friends and other hobbies that you enjoy. Fortunately for us, we have he same friends and we do go on nights out together. But I love nothing more than dancing like idiots with my friends as well as him, I couldn’t imagine being one of those girlfriends who only wants to be with their boyfriend. I like him but I need my own time. It’s so easy to let your insecurities overwhelm you, it’s also easy to totally ignore them and eventually they build up.

These tips might not work for everyone but I know they they work for me. If I’m feeling happy in myself then I know I’ll feel happier with him. Twitter: @bethdaviesblog Instagram: @_bbbbethan With love, Beth x

Choose Your Happiness

Recently I’ve been all about the happy in my life. If I don’t like it, I lump it. All I ever want is to be and feel happy and by achieving that, I’ve done everything I can be stay positive and keep the happy in and the negativity out. 

As we change and life gets on top of us, we realise that we’re often ignoring the things that really make a difference in our lives. So many people ignore this and many people never do something about it. It’s crazy to me that our lives become so tangled that we’re consumed by the people and the things that mean very little and not enough of the things that truly make a difference. 

Like I said, my mission these past few months is to really make a difference in my happiness. To do this I made a list, a list of pros and cons about my life. This might seem a little weird but honestly it made the world of difference. For years I’ve thought that certain things in my life weren’t necessary and I didn’t need them to make me happy but really, this list made me see otherwise. 

Number 1. Remove the people, the materialistic things and the negativity by choosing what makes you happy. Does your job make you happy? Your friends? Your home? The city/town you live in? Carefully consider the aspects of your life and decide what and who you need. 

Number 2. Do something about it. You may think quitting your job, moving somewhere new or removing people from your life is hard. I don’t disagree with that at all, it is! However, without the change you’ll never see your happy ending. 

Number 3. Don’t be afraid to stand your ground. Be assertive, understand what you want and commit. If that means upsetting a few people along the way then so be it. Sometimes we all have to be a little selfish. We all have to do something that others might not be happy with, but if you are then go ahead. Bitches get shit done. So don’t be a push over. 

Number 4. Do more of the things that make you happy. 

Twitter: @bethdaviesblog

Instagram: @_bbbbethan 

With love, Beth x 

 My Childhood Friends 

I’ve been friends with the same girls since high school. Slowly I became friends with each of them across the 7 years I was in school with them and although we aren’t always close, I don’t see them all the time and life gets in the way, I can honestly say that they’re the best of friends I could have ever wished for. 

Karrie, Annie, Nikki, Ellie, Darian, Megan, Becky and Demi have been with me from high school, 3 from primary school and I’m not gonna deny it but they’re some of the most supportive, loving and funny bunch of dickheads I’ve had the pleasure of growing up with. 


Some say that you’re only friends with the same group of people during high school because you’re forced to be with them 5 days a week. Now, I can’t answer that for some but I know that these girls are friends for life. No matter what the situation is, they’re there whenever I need them. We’re all growing up and having our own lives but I know that they’re only a text or phone call away. I know that regardless of what happens, they’re my friends and even after losing the closeness with them whilst in uni, they welcomed me back like I had never left. 


I’m so proud of every achievement they have made and the way they battle their way through any challenges that come their way. There are so many reasons why each of these girls mean something to me and I know that even through the tough times, they’re there. Most importantly, they’re there to make our way through several bottles of wine and a kebab on the way home whilst talking how much we love each other. 


If it means that I’m only ever going to have the same friends for the rest of my life, then I’m glad that these are the girls I have. 


Twitter: @_bbbethan 

Instagram: @_bbbbethan 

With love, Beth x 

The Final Countdown // University Update

The first year as a masters student is in progress! I’m just about ready to finish education and start working full time. I know it sounds crazy but I can’t wait to start paying off my overdraft and having less money worries as I do now (I know they probably won’t completely disappear). However, this year so far has been my favourite of all my time in university.  

As much as I love Aberystwyth and the life I had there, Carmarthen has such a different vibe and I’ve experienced university differently. The thing that really makes me happy about Carmarthen is that all of the students on campus are so bloody friendly. Whether you’re drunk or sober, you can make a friend wherever you go. I feel safer than ever and everyone is just in each other’s side which I love! 


This year I’ve experienced university in a different way since well, I’m not new to university at all and I’m also single for the first time in a while. I never really thought about how being single can change your outlook and life at uni but having now experienced it, I can definitely see a difference in myself as I’m now more outgoing and lively than I used to be! I love nights out and creating the best memories with my friends. 

I’ve also done a few things differently this time around, I started with joining the women’s rugby team and I love it! I never ever joined a sports team in Aberystwyth because I just never felt like they were as welcoming. The girls team in Carmarthen are totally different, so welcoming and really encourage new people and just promote such a diverse range of ladies who are so fun. 


Before coming I knew that I needed to work whilst completing this degree so I’ve got myself a job and I’m really enjoying the routine I have throughout the weeks. I’ve actually found it keeps me organised to know when I have lectures, work, rugby, training and then I can make time for uni work and my social life (I don’t really have one, I try though). 


I’ll admit, as much as I enjoy having a routine sometimes it can be really overwhelming to constantly be busy. I really only have a Sunday to chill out and do whatever I really want to do. I do find that difficult and I do wish I had the funding to be able to just focus on my masters but unfortunately, I simply cannot do that. 

I do struggle to keep a balance between healthy eating, exercising, work, uni work, a social life, a dating life (lol what is that?) and my Family. It’s ever easy to juggle things but right now I have struggled to keep at my diet and continue to lose weight. Im trying my best to maintain the weight that I am but I’m still finding it hard to continue with it. 


Otherwise, Carmarthen is treating me well and I’m really enjoying the first year of my masters degree. 

Twitter: @bethdaviesblog 

Instagram: @_bbbbethan 

With love, Beth x 

Fighting Those Post Break-Up Feelings

At 21 years old I’ve officially experienced my first heart break and let me tell you, it’s shit. The hardest thing I have ever had to do is walk away from someone whilst still loving them, it’s the worst feeling in the world but now I know that it was the right decision for both of us. It just wasn’t supposed to be and that’s for a number of reasons but I don’t regret a single moment I spent with him. I learned so much about who I am whilst in a relationship and now that I’m single and that’s OK and for now I get to be selfish and live my life a quarter mile at a time doing exactly what I want to do. 

However, I knew exactly how it feels to fight those post breakup feelings of anxiety, grief and anger. It’s actually so sad, my friend told me to treat it like a death rather than a break-up and it was probably the best bit of advice I had been given. Whether you’ve just broken up or you’re a few months down the line it can still be challenging but there are things to do to make the process easier. 

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not a break-up expert by no means. In fact I was and often continue to be a total mess, you aren’t alone in that one. I took gradual steps after my break-up to process and grieve my loss and it took a while but eventually I figured myself out. 

Step 1: Change your relationship status, remove the photos, give back their things. Leaving these things around will only make the process harder, believe me I know. Once you do it you feel so much better, like weight has been lifted off your shoulders. Having a clear out also just makes you feel more refreshed, think of it as changing the your summer clothes to your winter clothes. Out with the old and in with the new. 

Step 2: Take it slow. Stop rushing things, you wont wake up the next day and feel wonderful. It does take time, so give yourself time to process the situation. I don’t mean spend all day, every day dwelling on what could have been and feeling sad about it. I mean give yourself a few minutes to think about it, get up, shake it off and distract yourself. It’s okay to think about it and be sad but you need to do other things to do slowly adjust. I read all 7 Harry Potter books (best decision I ever made), got a summer job to distract myself and started eating healthy and exercising.

Step 3: Put yourself first. Was there something you wanted to do before you broke up that you wouldn’t have done whilst you were together? Now is your opportunity to do it. I’ve focused my time to lose weight and, study my masters degree, work and make new friends. I’m eating healthier and less, the weight is slowly coming off me and it’s increasing my self-esteem massively, I feel so much better every single time I see those numbers on the scale fall. I continue to embrace my new life as a masters student, occasionally go off plan through drinking wine or eating a little unhealthy whilst I make new friends and learn how to juggle my life.

Step 4: Go out, be sociable and meet new people. You have to get yourself back out there and especially into the world of dating (that dreaded world). My friends told me that you have to kiss a lot of frogs for you find your prince, so you go kiss those frogs (when you’re good and ready of course). Being sociable will really help to keep your mind off things and along the way you may find yourself with a new partner but most importantly, new friends and founding confidence. 

Step 5: Learn to accept the change, embrace your new founding freedom and remember that you probably weren’t the reason for the break-up and things don’t always pan out the way you planned things. Your dream wedding with the guy of your dreams will happen, just not at this moment. Yeah it’s shit because you planned your baby names, what dog you wanted and the type of house you wanted to live in. Those things will come, just with someone else eventually. You’re still worthy of love and attention, don’t you forget that. 

Remember, your break-up doesn’t define who you are. You can be anybody you want to be, so go out and be her/him. You now have the chance to do more of what makes you happy with the privileged of not worrying about someone else. 

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With love, Beth x