9 Things That Irritate MeĀ 

We see all of those posts telling you a 101 things that people love but what about the things that you don’t? I’m not saying you have to express every single thing that irritates you. However, it’s natural to have these feelings and I’m not afraid to tell someone when something is irritating me. So, instead of telling you 9 things that I love. I’ll tell you 9 things they irritate me instead, just for you guys to truly get to know me.

  1. Lying is my number 1 no-no. I don’t tolerate it and I don’t do it. I’m known for my honesty and I like it in return.
  2. The sound of cracking bones. I feel physically sick when I hear this noise.
  3. Wasting food isn’t funny, it’s frustrating. Use it for compost, give it to the homeless. Stop throwing away good, unexpired food. Even expired food can still be eaten.
  4. Laziness. Not the “I’m going to sit here and watch Netflix all day because I can’t be bothered” type because occasionally we all need this (granted some people take this a little overboard). I do mean those people who refuse to get a job and everything is given to them on a plate.
  5. People who look for drama. Just simply that.
  6. People who cannot accept that others have opinions and a right to express them.
  7. Crowds. I hate crowds so much.
  8. Not having my own time and space. I thoroughly enjoy a little time to myself and enjoying my free time. Let me have it occasionally.
  9. People who walk slower than me and get under my feet.

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With love, Beth x

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Fighting Those Post Break-Up Feelings

At 21 years old I’ve officially experienced my first heart break and let me tell you, it’s shit. The hardest thing I have ever had to do is walk away from someone whilst still loving them, it’s the worst feeling in the world but now I know that it was the right decision for both of us. It just wasn’t supposed to be and that’s for a number of reasons but I don’t regret a single moment I spent with him. I learned so much about who I am whilst in a relationship and now that I’m single and that’s OK and for now I get to be selfish and live my life a quarter mile at a time doing exactly what I want to do. 

However, I knew exactly how it feels to fight those post breakup feelings of anxiety, grief and anger. It’s actually so sad, my friend told me to treat it like a death rather than a break-up and it was probably the best bit of advice I had been given. Whether you’ve just broken up or you’re a few months down the line it can still be challenging but there are things to do to make the process easier. 

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not a break-up expert by no means. In fact I was and often continue to be a total mess, you aren’t alone in that one. I took gradual steps after my break-up to process and grieve my loss and it took a while but eventually I figured myself out. 

Step 1: Change your relationship status, remove the photos, give back their things. Leaving these things around will only make the process harder, believe me I know. Once you do it you feel so much better, like weight has been lifted off your shoulders. Having a clear out also just makes you feel more refreshed, think of it as changing the your summer clothes to your winter clothes. Out with the old and in with the new. 

Step 2: Take it slow. Stop rushing things, you wont wake up the next day and feel wonderful. It does take time, so give yourself time to process the situation. I don’t mean spend all day, every day dwelling on what could have been and feeling sad about it. I mean give yourself a few minutes to think about it, get up, shake it off and distract yourself. It’s okay to think about it and be sad but you need to do other things to do slowly adjust. I read all 7 Harry Potter books (best decision I ever made), got a summer job to distract myself and started eating healthy and exercising.

Step 3: Put yourself first. Was there something you wanted to do before you broke up that you wouldn’t have done whilst you were together? Now is your opportunity to do it. I’ve focused my time to lose weight and, study my masters degree, work and make new friends. I’m eating healthier and less, the weight is slowly coming off me and it’s increasing my self-esteem massively, I feel so much better every single time I see those numbers on the scale fall. I continue to embrace my new life as a masters student, occasionally go off plan through drinking wine or eating a little unhealthy whilst I make new friends and learn how to juggle my life.

Step 4: Go out, be sociable and meet new people. You have to get yourself back out there and especially into the world of dating (that dreaded world). My friends told me that you have to kiss a lot of frogs for you find your prince, so you go kiss those frogs (when you’re good and ready of course). Being sociable will really help to keep your mind off things and along the way you may find yourself with a new partner but most importantly, new friends and founding confidence. 

Step 5: Learn to accept the change, embrace your new founding freedom and remember that you probably weren’t the reason for the break-up and things don’t always pan out the way you planned things. Your dream wedding with the guy of your dreams will happen, just not at this moment. Yeah it’s shit because you planned your baby names, what dog you wanted and the type of house you wanted to live in. Those things will come, just with someone else eventually. You’re still worthy of love and attention, don’t you forget that. 

Remember, your break-up doesn’t define who you are. You can be anybody you want to be, so go out and be her/him. You now have the chance to do more of what makes you happy with the privileged of not worrying about someone else. 

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With love, Beth x 

Being Highly Sensitive

I have always been a sensitive person and for so long I have thought that this is a problem and I should try to change this. However, during 2017 I realised that this is actually a really lovely aspect of my personality and something that 1. I cannot change and 2. I don’t want to change. I think it’s so important that people understand that sensitivity shouldn’t be taken lightly and if you know someone who is incredibly sensitive, please accept that they need a little more lovin’ and protecting than others. 

For me, I cry at everything. I may not even be sad and I’ll cry. I’ll especially cry if I’m angry or arguing with someone. This one makes me feel so irritated because it looks like I’m upset about the situation or feeling guilty and like 80% of the time I’m neither of these but just emotion. I also find that I feel so vulnerable during this time so people will stop arguing with me and dammit, don’t!! If I feel like I’m right in the situation, accept that I want to argue my point even if I am crying. 

However, there are more things that are irritating about being highly sensitive. Such as overthinking, if I come across something that I don’t particularly like I will probably overthink it and continue to overthink it until it drives me insane and I eventually have to mention it. 

Since I do cry at anything, I can even watch those videos of babies and without fail will cry instantly. Even videos when people get engaged also when children are reunited with their parents who are in the army.. yep I’ll cry. I once even cried when I saw a puppy who was as big as my hand. I don’t even like animals all the much. Honestly, it’s ridiculous how much I cry at things that aren’t even worth crying at but people often find this humorous. 

Like I previously said, I have always seen my sensitivity as a flaw but what I’ve realised most is that I’m actually a very loving person and I’m always careful and considerate of feelings (although I don’t always have a filter and have been known to upset someone, apologise and then think about it for the rest of my life and always feel like the most horrible person to ever exist). I put others first before myself and I like to give people lots of loving and overwhelm them with my time and attention, even if they don’t want it. 

In actual fact, being sensitive doesn’t mean it’s a bad part of my life but it does help me to be a more kind and compassionate person. I may always feel like I have done something wrong or upset someone, I don’t enjoy confrontation so when I do have to do it, I cry and that’s okay because it’s just who I am and I have learned to accept it. I also find that I miss others more than they miss me and I’ve learned to accept that even though I’m not reliant on other people but I like to be comfortable with who I am around and I’ll miss you the most if I’ve not seen you in a long time. That’s not bad at all and I’d love and appreciate any person who is like that with me. 

So, if you’re a highly sensitive person.. don’t worry about it! You aren’t the only one and you’re going to be known for being loving, kind and thoughtful. I will always prefer to be known as that than something else.

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