My Experience of Being a Young Auntie

I was 14 when my niece, Gracie was born. That was 6 years ago (7 in December) and in the past 6 years I have become best friends with the brightest, most clever and beautiful little girl.


When I thought being an auntie couldn’t get any better we welcomed my nephew Ethan, who is due to turn 2 in January. I was 19 when Ethan was born. The love I have for this handsome little boy is so overwhelming.

However, I did notice a totally different perspective when Ethan was born in comparison to Gracie. At 14 I was young, naive and I didn’t have much care. It took me a little while to adjust to being an auntie and because I was so young as Gracie got older we bickered like sisters (imagine having a screaming match with a 2 year old.. that was us). Eventually we adjusted and we are so incredibly close now.

I had 4 years with Gracie before I headed off to uni which meant I had 4 years to form the most wonderful relationship. Whereas, Ethan was born in my 2nd year of uni and don’t get me wrong, we’re close but I’m definitely missing out on the milestones he’s having. I missed his first word, his first step and the worst bit, I missed his birth.


At 14 I wouldn’t have cared about these things but now I’m older, I’ve realised that I appreciate these things more than anything and having missed them has broken my auntie heart.

At this point I would have though I wouldn’t have much of a bond with Baby Ethan but that isn’t what’s happened. When Ethan see’s me he runs at me to kiss me, when I’m on FaceTime he gives the biggest smiles. He acknowledges me and knows me which is something I didn’t think would happen.

These two children are my best friends, without them our family really wouldn’t be complete. I wouldn’t say it wasn’t challenging at first. With me being so young when Gracie arrived I still wanted attention, in fact I craved it more than ever. She was this perfect little doll-like baby and she was taking my thunder (I was the baby in the family). My parents became grandparents and they were having a totally different experience as well. My brother became an uncle (didn’t really bother him as he was older).

Admittedly, I didn’t grow out of these feelings as fast as I should have. However, now I have I realised how much I appreciate and love having these little ones in my life.

Being an auntie means so much more than I could have ever thought. When I’ve picked Gracie up from school and I hear that she has spent the whole day talking about Auntie Beth picking her up, it gives me so much happiness.

Seeing Ethan smile, develop and grow into such a clever boy really is amazing. I have spent the last 3 years studying childhood studies but nothing prepares you to actually watch a child grow.

Being an auntie is so much more to me than I ever could have imagined. I can’t wait to see these children grow and do amazing things with all the potentional they have.

With love, Beth x

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What I Learned As An Undergraduate 

I’m heading into my 4th year of student life and through that time I’ve managed to learn a lot, both academically and personally. To be totally honest with you, university is a massive learning experience through which you will learn so much about who you are, who you want to be and what you want in your life. 

As much as I loved uni life now I’m going to a different university I realised I learned so much from my experience that helped me realise what I need in my life. With that I would share some of the things that I learned during my university experience and things that my benefit you. 

1. Make more friends than just your flatmates. Whether you join a sport or society or even mingle with your course mates, these are ways for you to maintain solid friendships with your flatmates and also not feel too suffocated when you spend all your time with the same people. 

2. With that in mind, keep your closest friends small. Having lots of friends is fantastic but you can’t please all these people all the time. If your circle is too big you’ll find that everybody knows your business and life becomes challenging. 

3. I motto is, don’t shit where you eat. In other words, don’t sleep with your flatmates or get into a relationship ship with them. It makes things incredibly awkward for everybody if things go bad and you have to spend the whole year in an uncomfortable silence whenever he enters the room. 

4. Along with that, don’t get into a relationship or sleep with someone in your friendship group. Through my own experience I’ve reaised that eventually one of you will be pushed out and forgotten, some may say replaced when either of you get into a new relationship. It’s tough for everybody and especially if you were originally the outsider it’s even more tough when you have to leave a group of friends that you enjoy. 

5. Joining a sport or society will help you make more friends but also help you see what you like and dislike. So you tried archery but it wasn’t your thing but along with that, you went for a Social with tennis and they’re the greatest people ever and you love it. You probably found. new love for a sport you never knew you liked and it’s given you a chance to do something different. 

6. Don’t be a hoarder because at the end of the year when you’re packing your things up you’re going to have so much stuff that you don’t know what to do with it all. So a few times during the year have a good clear out of things that you aren’t using, wearing or needing. This was it’ll be easier for you to pack up at the end of the year. 

7. Your studies are so important. If you have an essay due but your friends are having a big night out, choose to do the essay and get it done without any fuss. Yes it’s crappy that you’re missing a night out you’re missing out on the drama but you’re likely to get a better grade, no hangover and you’re saving money. 

                     If you have any of your own tips for the newest freshers comment below!