December Goals

HAPPY BLOGMAS!

Every day as a countdown until Christmas I’ll be uploading a new post at 6pm. 

The final month of 2017 is here, so it’s obviously time to try and achieve my new year’s resolutions in one month (Just kidding, I forgot them). Let’s be honest that isn’t going to happen. I’ve been enjoying giving myself monthly goals and I think I’d like to try this throughout the next year. I think it’s such a fun way to keep track of your life and as a challenge to yourself each month. 

This month’s goals: 

  • Maintain a healthy-ish diet throughout the holiday season (why would I do this to myself?) 
  • Maintain my weight! (Wishful thinking, right?)
  • Watch at least 1 Christmas movie a week.
  • Have my Christmas shopping finished a week before Christmas.  
  • Visit a Christmas market and Winter Wonderland. 
  • Enjoy the let month of 2017 and prepare for an amazing new year.

What are yours? Let me know!

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With love, Beth x 

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My Experience of Being a Young Auntie

I was 14 when my niece, Gracie was born. That was 6 years ago (7 in December) and in the past 6 years I have become best friends with the brightest, most clever and beautiful little girl.


When I thought being an auntie couldn’t get any better we welcomed my nephew Ethan, who is due to turn 2 in January. I was 19 when Ethan was born. The love I have for this handsome little boy is so overwhelming.

However, I did notice a totally different perspective when Ethan was born in comparison to Gracie. At 14 I was young, naive and I didn’t have much care. It took me a little while to adjust to being an auntie and because I was so young as Gracie got older we bickered like sisters (imagine having a screaming match with a 2 year old.. that was us). Eventually we adjusted and we are so incredibly close now.

I had 4 years with Gracie before I headed off to uni which meant I had 4 years to form the most wonderful relationship. Whereas, Ethan was born in my 2nd year of uni and don’t get me wrong, we’re close but I’m definitely missing out on the milestones he’s having. I missed his first word, his first step and the worst bit, I missed his birth.


At 14 I wouldn’t have cared about these things but now I’m older, I’ve realised that I appreciate these things more than anything and having missed them has broken my auntie heart.

At this point I would have though I wouldn’t have much of a bond with Baby Ethan but that isn’t what’s happened. When Ethan see’s me he runs at me to kiss me, when I’m on FaceTime he gives the biggest smiles. He acknowledges me and knows me which is something I didn’t think would happen.

These two children are my best friends, without them our family really wouldn’t be complete. I wouldn’t say it wasn’t challenging at first. With me being so young when Gracie arrived I still wanted attention, in fact I craved it more than ever. She was this perfect little doll-like baby and she was taking my thunder (I was the baby in the family). My parents became grandparents and they were having a totally different experience as well. My brother became an uncle (didn’t really bother him as he was older).

Admittedly, I didn’t grow out of these feelings as fast as I should have. However, now I have I realised how much I appreciate and love having these little ones in my life.

Being an auntie means so much more than I could have ever thought. When I’ve picked Gracie up from school and I hear that she has spent the whole day talking about Auntie Beth picking her up, it gives me so much happiness.

Seeing Ethan smile, develop and grow into such a clever boy really is amazing. I have spent the last 3 years studying childhood studies but nothing prepares you to actually watch a child grow.

Being an auntie is so much more to me than I ever could have imagined. I can’t wait to see these children grow and do amazing things with all the potentional they have.

With love, Beth x

9 Things That Irritate Me 

We see all of those posts telling you a 101 things that people love but what about the things that you don’t? I’m not saying you have to express every single thing that irritates you. However, it’s natural to have these feelings and I’m not afraid to tell someone when something is irritating me. So, instead of telling you 9 things that I love. I’ll tell you 9 things they irritate me instead, just for you guys to truly get to know me.

  1. Lying is my number 1 no-no. I don’t tolerate it and I don’t do it. I’m known for my honesty and I like it in return.
  2. The sound of cracking bones. I feel physically sick when I hear this noise.
  3. Wasting food isn’t funny, it’s frustrating. Use it for compost, give it to the homeless. Stop throwing away good, unexpired food. Even expired food can still be eaten.
  4. Laziness. Not the “I’m going to sit here and watch Netflix all day because I can’t be bothered” type because occasionally we all need this (granted some people take this a little overboard). I do mean those people who refuse to get a job and everything is given to them on a plate.
  5. People who look for drama. Just simply that.
  6. People who cannot accept that others have opinions and a right to express them.
  7. Crowds. I hate crowds so much.
  8. Not having my own time and space. I thoroughly enjoy a little time to myself and enjoying my free time. Let me have it occasionally.
  9. People who walk slower than me and get under my feet.

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With love, Beth x

Budgeting as a Student 

Budgeting is hard enough without being a student but as a student, it’s 10x worse. People think students are made of money, especially my parents. They think because we get a termly loan in bulk that it lasts forever and we can live off it. This isn’t true at all.

In fact, throughout the whole of my student life I’ve always had money problems and had to work. It just happens. Life happens, you may need dental treatment, car needs insuring or perhaps your laptop breaks. These things happen and you have to decide whether it’s worth funding and whether you have the money for it.

What’s worse is that nobody prepares you to do your own finances. There isn’t a class that you go to before you finish school that helps you figure out how to sort your life out. You’re thrown into the deep end and you’re automatically supposed to know how to do it. In fact, in my first year of uni I was so unprepared that I’ve gone £1000 into an overdraft and haven’t properly paid it back yet.

Before I headed to uni I sat down and tried to figure out how I’ll survive with a very minimal student loan and having to find a job that pays enough to last me a week and allows me to save money.

Step 1: I figured out how much loan I get per term. This allowed me to see what I can pay for and how long the money will last.

Step 2: How much rent do you have to pay? Do you own a car? Children? Pets? Figure out what priorities you have and what you could remove to help minimise the amount of money that goes out each month.

For me, my mum pays my phone bill still so I only had to pay my accommodation, credit card, new look store card and my course fees.

Step 3: Determine how much you have left and how much you need to spend a week to allow you to last the term with the rest of your money.

Step 4: I knew I needed a job to maintain a healthy bank balance during my masters so I figured out how many hours I would need a week to give me enough money to cater for me. I figured I’d need at least a 20 hour a week job that gives me around £140 a week. Most of which I can save.


Helpful tip: Use a budget organiser to keep yourself in track of your finances. Either make your own or you can get one from paperchase and other stores. They’re incredibly worth while for you to figure out what you’ve been spending your money on and areas that you need to cut down on.

Twitter: @_bethdaviesblog

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With love, Beth x

Are Audiobooks Worth The Hype?

I was given a 3 month free trial of Audible and I’ve been taking advantage of having someone else read to me whilst I relax in bed, in the bath, whilst I cook or even when I travel. I can’t say I’m totally converted to audio books because I love having the real paperback or hardback in front of me but I definitely see why people enjoy them. Honestly though, they’re not entirely for me.

They definitely have their benefits! Once you’ve paid your monthly subscription they’re then free to use, which I think is fantastic. You have unlimited books to listen to and read and it’s so lovely to know you can pick a new book at the click of a button.

I love listening to them whilst I’m doing other things. I really struggle to keep up if I’m doing serious things like an assignment or a blog post but I definitely enjoy listening to them whilst relaxing and especially right before bed. I know reading a book is incredibly time consuming and for some they simply don’t have the time to pick up a book and relax during the evenings with a glass of wine (I recommend both every day of the week).

Admittedly, you can listen to some audio books and struggle to relax because the narrator has the worst voice in the whole world and everything they say irritates you. However, you can find some audio books that have narrators you literally send you to sleep. The comfort and peacefulness of their voice’s can be so relaxing and comforting and it can definitely act as a calming motive for some. I find that when I’m most stressed I’ll pop on an audio book with a narrator who has a soft and gentle voice and it’ll calm me down within minutes.

Let me know what you guys think of audio books, love them or hate them?

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With love, Beth x

Battling Your Insecurities in a New Relationship

Insecurities are something everyone has, they’re so natural to experience and often leave people with a lot of anxiety and stressful thoughts. I know this as I experience them so often, however, I recently experience them more now I’ve started dating someone new.

For some this is the exciting part, they love to meet someone new and really find out who they are. For me, I’d rather just skip to the point where I’m completely settled, comfortable and know them and until that happens, my insecurities will be on fire. From the moment I knew I had feelings for him I had instant insecurities. Does he like me back? Why would he like me? I know he can do better. Apparently these were my favourite thoughts right up until our first date. Before that though, I had already turned down the offer of a date because I was so nervous. After constant thought about this, I definitely regretted it and was over the moon that he asked again (he must have the patience of a god).

With that in mind, I realised quickly that if I let my insecurities more important than how I really felt for him then the relationship wouldn’t happen. I recognised that I needed to do something and fight my insecurities, so these are my thoughts on fighting your insecurities at the beginning of a new relationship.

Say yes to the dateOnce I realised I had said yes to going out on a date I worried for days about whether I could hold a conversation, what if we went on the date and we had absolutely nothing in common and nothing to talk about. Then we would have to sit through our food totally ignoring the fact that it was the worst first date ever (this wasn’t my only concern obviously). Luckily this didn’t happen and we had such a lovely first date and I’ve not regretted it since.

Stop concentrating on previous relationships It’s so easy to compare your previous partners to your new one. It’s not nice to do so but it’s your mind’s way of making sure you don’t experience anything that you have previously. For me I was so afraid of having to change and be someone different. I was afraid of being with him and he wouldn’t accept my anxiety and mental health problems and I was scared it would just chase him away. So I just told him straight out that I do struggle with panic attacks and mental health and instead of thinking the worst of me, he was totally supportive. My point is, you have to just see what they’re like before knocking them.

Appearance isn’t everything Try not to spend all your time concentrating on your makeup, hair and outfit. Just do what feels natural and comfortable to you. I guarantee they aren’t that bothered whether you’re wearing a dress or jeans, heels or flats. I know I still do it but I like to make so much effort when I’m going to see him so he doesn’t think I’m a total troll. when I realised that I was still doing this I started toning it down a bit by wearing less or no makeup at all. Hanging out in my comfiest leggings and oversized t-shirts whilst having lazy sofa days. By doing this I learned that he actually doesn’t mind what I look like and it’s helped me to feel so much more relaxed.

Take it slow We all have this feeling of rushing, wanting to be the best, wanting to just get to a point. Embrace the new relationship, the first kiss, first trip, the first anything. Enjoy spending time together and learning more about each other. It’s okay to just enjoy each other’s company. With this relationship I’ve promised that I’m going to take it as slow as possible, I see no reason to rush what we have and I’m enjoying just seeing where things go. We all worry about the future but it’s okay to just enjoy being with each other in the present time.

Enjoy the firsts The thought of the firsts really gives me anxiety and it still does. The first of anything you do together it so scary regardless of what it is. So many of us try to prevent doing the firsts through fear but I’ve learned that it’s okay to be excited about them. The first kiss is supposed to be magical and I was so apprehensive about it but it was even worse for me. I had to experience it twice! Our first kiss, I was drunk, like totally out of my face drunk. I can barely even remember it but I do remember how happy it had made me. I guess I’m lucky enough to have gotten to experience it for a second time whilst sober. Right at that moment I realised that I just wanted to enjoy all of our first moments together and now I look forward to them.

Talk to them If you really do have a specific insecurity that is just eating you up inside, just talk to them. You have to start communicating and opening up at some point so why not start with something that really bothers you. Talking helps any couple from and develop the comfortable feelings and gain trust. You have to start at some point and I think talking about your insecurities is something that you’ll bond over because it’s probably likely that they too are feeling the same!

Distance is ok Over these past few months I’ve learned that I quite enjoy being around such a variety of people as well as still have alone time. You don’t have to speak all the time, you don’t have to see each other every day, you don’t have to just be with them on nights out. Distance means you won’t become too reliant on that person and you can still live your life the way you want. Except for a few nights a week or whenever you want, you get to really enjoy the time with them and look forward to it. I know that it’s easy to get comfortable in relationships and forget that you have other friends and other hobbies that you enjoy. Fortunately for us, we have he same friends and we do go on nights out together. But I love nothing more than dancing like idiots with my friends as well as him, I couldn’t imagine being one of those girlfriends who only wants to be with their boyfriend. I like him but I need my own time. It’s so easy to let your insecurities overwhelm you, it’s also easy to totally ignore them and eventually they build up.

These tips might not work for everyone but I know they they work for me. If I’m feeling happy in myself then I know I’ll feel happier with him. Twitter: @bethdaviesblog Instagram: @_bbbbethan With love, Beth x

50 Questions You’ve Never Been Asked

I love a good tag post as much as the bendy guy. So when I saw this one I just knew I wanted to do it. Admittedly, nobody tagged me in it but loulabellrose.co.uk posted this and encouraged everybody to do it, so well, I follow orders. 

These questions are so different and unique that it intrigued me instantly and now I, going to share some facts with you guys that you may not know!

01. What’s your favorite candle scent?I don’t really burn candles very often but if I do, I always buy the Yankee Candles and my favourite for the autumn or winter is Christmas Eve. 

02. What female celebrity do you wish was your sister?

Jennifer Lawrence. She just seems so funny and down to earth.

03. What male celebrity do you wish was your brother?

I can imagine Andrew Garfield to be a pretty decent brother. 

04. How old do you think you’ll be when you get married?

Honestly, I can’t tell you. You have to be in a relationship to determine that and I’m not. Realistically I would like to be around 27.

05. Do you know a hoarder?

I probably do but nobody really springs to mind. 

06. Can you do the splits?

Absolutely not.

07. How old were you when you first learned how to ride a bike?

Around 6, maybe 7.

08. How many oceans have you swam in?

I don’t swim in oceans, they creep me out. 


09. How many countries have you been to?

Six, I believe. 

10. Is anyone in your family in the army?

No. 

11. What would you name your daughter if you had one?

I love the names Evelyn, Francesca, Emilia, Payton and Harper. 

12. What would you name your son if you had one?

I love the names Harry, Max, Lucas, and Carter.

13. What’s the worst grade you’ve got on a test?

I got an F in Maths GCSE but eventually built my way up to a D.

14. What was your favourite TV show when you were a kid?

Barney was my all time favourite.


15. What did you dress up as for Halloween when you were 8?

My mum used to dress us up in bin bags, a witches hat and a broom.


16. Have you read any of the Harry Potter, Hunger Games or Twilight series?

All three series. 

17. Would you rather have an American accent or a British accent?

British, the America on accent is awful.

18. Did your mother go to university?

No.

19. Are your grandparents still married?

No.

20. Have you ever taken karate lessons?
No. I was a dancer though. 

21. Do you know who Kermit the frog is?

Who doesn’t?


22. What was the first amusement park you went to?

Disneyland Paris.

23. What language beside your native language would you like to be fluent in?

Italian or French.

24. Do you spell the colour grey or gray?
Grey. 

25. Is your father bald?
Not completely.

26. Do you know any triplets?

No.

27. Do you prefer Titanic or The Notebook?

The Notebook.

28. Have you ever had Indian food?

I love it! 

29. What’s the name of your favourite restaurant?

Fusion King in Aberystwyth. It’s essential Asian foods.

30. Have you ever been to Nandos?

Yes once and it’s essentially just expensive chicke.

31. Do you belong to any warehouse stores (Costco, Bookers, etc.)?

Nope.

32. What would your parents have named you if you were the opposite gender?

I have no idea! My dad wanted to call me Myfanwy though.

33. If you have a nickname, what is it?

Beth.

34. Who’s your favourite person in the world?

My nan.


35. Would you rather live in the countryside or the city?
I love both but I’m more of a city girl.

36. Can you whistle?

I can.

37. Do you sleep with a nightlight?

No.

38. Do you eat breakfast every morning?

I have too, if I don’t I feel sick..

39. Do you take any pills or medication daily?

The Pill and Asthma inhalers.

40. What medical conditions do you have?

Asthma and Degenerative Disc Disorder.

41. How many times have you been to the hospital?

I can’t count.

42. Have you ever seen Finding Nemo?
Yes! Not my favourite though.

43. Where do you buy your jeans?

Generally New Look but I do love River Island jeans. 

44. What’s the last compliment you got?

I don’t know. Someone said my new hair looks nice.

45. Do you usually remember your dreams in the morning?

Always.

46. What flavour tea do you enjoy?

I like regular tea but I really enjoy mint green tea.


47. How many pairs of shoes do you currently own?

I honestly don’t know.

48. What religion will you raise your children to practice?

None but they are free to choose what they want.

49. How old were you when you found out that Santa wasn’t real?

I geneuinely domt know.

50. Why do you have a blog?

 I was really struggling with anxiety and panic attacks and thought having a blog would maybe distract me, it did. 

Feel free to post this yourself and answer the questions! Tag me in them, I love to read them. 

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With love, Beth x